Is it good without THE BIG O?
Yup, I'm back and all I seem to be reading or seeing is about sex and the female orgasm, the BIG O. OK, good, we like that but is that all that's on the menu??? JK
Last night, I saw L.O.V.E.R by Lois Robbins. One woman show, starring the author and no spoilers, it's a lot about sex and a lot about coming and a lot about other life things like love loss and etc but I don't want to give away too much. Go see it. It hits a lot of the right notes. You will leave the theater with lots to discuss. I will never look at a washing machine quite the same way again.
Any fans of Mad Men out there? If yes, you must remember Betty Draper's interlude with the washing machine. It was fabulous. If you are not fans of Mad Men, get on netflix and watch. Don Draper dba gorgeous damaged irresistible rat bastard knew his way around the ladies but technique fabulous, the loving part, not so much... well, go watch it and report back.
I digress. Of course, I do
About an hour ago, surfing my email, I find myself reading an article about having an orgasm while sleeping. Yup, nodded in dream land and boom. Has it happened to you? Apparently, what women have been telling their sexual partners for centuries is true. That sex with a woman is about 2 areas and one of them is the brain. So, you go to la la land and you have a hot dream. I'll leave it to you to figure out if sixty was ever that lucky. WINK WINK!!
####disclaimer, there is much more than 2 "areas" but I'm making a point not writing a dissertation.
Getting to the original question, what are your thoughts? I think that yes, sex can be quite good without the "earth moving" but sometimes, sort of like taking a shower with a raincoat on.
Only kidding but yah, it can be goodish or even good. In the dating world, the one thing that I have always detested is the man who is overly interested when it's OVER, if he was that interested he would listen to verbal and non verbal cues during the cha cha not after the music stopped... What he wants to know and this is usually said loud enough to wake the neighbors, DID YOU COME? That's a real turn on, right??!!!
Forget about those guys as above. When sex is good really good is when it's not just sex but love making. Now, we all know the difference. That's not to say that a good roaring and I mean roaring cha cha isn't fabulous...........
Lying in your partners arms post cha cha doesn't replace the big O but it sure beats the gent and I use that term loosely, from rolling over and nodding out. Just saying! It's knowing that you are not the sum of your body parts but rather a living human with thoughts and feelings and I am not just talking of feelings of the tactile nature.
You know when you've been made love to just like you know when it's just sex because you feel more than physically. Of course, you do. There's that feeling of being cared for and caring back and feeling love perhaps, or at the very least good firm like as in like LIKE as the middle schoolers would say.
Again, no judgment sixty, sees nothing wrong with a horizontal cha cha that's just a horizontal cha cha but quite frankly, if there is no glimmer of a big O with the just sex person, then peace out. Just saying.
World of difference of that you can be sure. Pick one or pick a combination but make sure it makes you feel good not just physically but emotionally.
Happy Weekend and gather those rosebuds and know you deserve only the very best in whatever form it takes.