End of a year and the double whammy of the end of a decade causes for some hell, for most of us, a time to step back and marvel at how fast it all goes by. Faster and faster. WOW.
But it does, so here we are and tomorrow is another NYE to be celebrated or not and another new year where by mid month, it's no longer acceptable to write the wrong year on checks. Oh wait, who writes a check? How's about never? What is this 2000?? LOL
Dating: there's no huge epiphany that comes with one year ending and a new one beginning. What does often happen is that stomach roiling angst because of the NYE thing as in what the hell to do? It still happens to some and to others, it's a non event.
Sixty contemplated several good ideas all of which involved spending time with close friends. Best possible choice will be a play date with my bestie: movies and then appies and fattening fun stuff at my house after the movie. Easy, simple and enjoyable and you can be sure that there will be some dancing, always dancing.
January 2nd, it's back to reality. BTW, holidays should only be on the weekend. Can anyone please fix that going forward?
DATING, yah it gets capitalized. Where are we going with dating and where have we been and what have we learned?
Now, don't worry, dear readers, I am not writing a treatise but just an overview
Where are we going? Well, for those of us who haven't found the person of interest yet, it's get out there and get moving. Yes, I am the worst person to say that as after Mr. Nice, I decided to take a break and am still "breaking" but that is changing VERY VERY shortly. Why, because I want to and when I want to do something, it gets done. Was I mourning the ending of my relationship with Mr. Nice. No, one can only mourn a relationship that really was one.
For those who have cold feet because perhaps, you're new at this, I sympathize with the anxiety that comes with going on the first date as in maybe the first date in decades or a year or whatever. It's daunting but hold your nose, wear waterproof mascara and jump right in. If you're waiting for an engraved invitation or a set-up or some other phantasmagorical cute meet up, yes, it can happen but don't hold your breath.
Do it. You will meet great guys, you will meet ordinary guys and yes, you will meet some jerks and hopefully, no real nut jobs. GO YOU!! And you're going to have fun and if you calibrate your expectations and assume positive intent, you might and will be pleasantly surprised. And yes, you will get your feelings hurt and you know what, it smarts but you will bounce back. It's part of the experience as in it comes with the dinner never coffee, remember that....😉
Where have we been?
Maybe, like me, you went to Greece. Just joking but seriously, too. . It was great to see Greece but would have been better if I was really crazy about the guy I went with but I wasn't. I didn't allow that to diminish my enjoyment of the trip but it sure as hell woke me up from my self induced comatose state. We did have some laughs and saw beautiful things!!
What have we learned?
We all learn differently and at a different pace. I'm a slow learner in this dating thing and am loath to try something that I haven't done before but I'm improving. Getting involved with Mr Nice was a big step for me. I hadn't had a relationship lasting more than 3 or 4 dates in awhile and it was time to try it but really try it. For me, that meant to be open and accepting and not dismiss someone because he got too close. And I tried but trying doesn't make up for the za za zou or the lack thereof and yes, my friends that is about chemistry and in this case, that alas, was missing.
The learning part of the program was that I could be with someone and not feel off balance and actually allow myself to be comfortable. That's a great feeling and I liked it and that I would like again, for sure.
What one cannot do is making something be what it isn't and is never going to be. If you really like someone, you know right away. I tried to convince myself that this was going to work because I wanted to have someone in my life****
****Sidebar, what would the end of the year be without one of my sidebars?? Yes, I do want someone in my life but am trying to sort out what that means. Someone 24/7 am afraid is not necessarily what am hardwired for or even want but things change...What about you?
I do believe in love and feel that there is someone out there for me and for you if you want him. Is it easy? Hells to the no!! But just think how fabulous it would be if you found the guy who's your guy?
HAPPY, HEALTHY, FUN FILLED AND FABULOUS NEW YEAR!!!